Be your own best friend - what does this mean….


In today’s blog I share with you compelling reasons to embrace and practice compassion for one’s self.

At some time in your life you have been that supportive friend, brother, and/or sister lending a hand with kind words, affirming statements and gestures that demonstrate that you care.

People do not remember what we say, they do remember how we make them feel, especially in these moments. We often do this naturally even without thinking and we do this because we think it’s the right thing to do.

How do you support yourself when you find yourself in a tricky situation?

Research show us that we have been conditioned to use internal talk that is harsh, abrasive and often offensive to others. This often stirs up anger, and we use this feeling to push us forward.

In these moments are you being your own best friend?
If you spoke this way to a friend in need, would they continue to be around you?

We all face problems, come up against challenges, they are part of life, it is the universes way of making you grow and or learn. If you have a problem that is reoccurring, you haven’t learnt the lesson yet……there is nothing wrong with you.

Often people will play down a problem in company due to not wanting to be seen as needy, or even stupid. We often share our opinion before we get all the facts or without considering the unknown details. This behaviour shuts a person in need down, pushes them into the background.
STOP and listen.

Playing down your problems, often stops you from getting the help and support you need and you end up feeling worse. Don’t belittle your experiences or think that your problem is less significant in comparison to others. We all experience trauma, challenge etc differently and that alone does not make it any less important.

To pass through this period a little quicker, take some time, listen to your internal story, speak kindly of yourself and to yourself. Create some space for you to reflect and give yourself permission to recognise the true impact you have on others, acknowledge your feelings and embrace your learnings, one step at a time. You are worth it.

Today more than ever we need to be kind to ourselves, so we encourage others to be kind. Gratitude expands the heart, be grateful for what you can control and let the rest pass by.

Step Up, Stand Up and take responsibility for the part you play and know that only you can change this……..I wonder what you will do first?

If you resonate with this blog and you are committed to making the change, however, you do not want to go it alone, take comfort in knowing I can support you, inspire you and celebrate you as we take this journey together, secure a complimentary coffee chat today.

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Until next time please remember my favourite quote -
Your Smile 😎 Your Responsibility - Own it, Wear it, Share it